Just Ask

Hey Everyone!

Hope you’re all doing well!

I think that deep down each and everyone one of us knows the value of helping others and most of us can probably think of at least one instance in which we have helped someone else.

However, I believe the thing that most of us humans struggle with is actually asking for help when we need it ourselves. Many of us are afraid to ask others for help because we fear being rejected or we just immediately assume that the other person will say no.

If you are anything like me, you may feel that you are being a burden to other people if you ask them for help. Without a doubt, there is definitely a limit to how much someone can help us because helping others requires time and effort.

However, most of us only focus on the burden that we are putting on others and we don’t focus on how rewarding helping us may be for the other person.

In fact, a great deal of psychological research shows that helping others increases self-esteem, sense of belonging and overall well-being.

Of course, there is a wrong way and a right way to ask for help. I know that it is really tempting to ask for help through text or email. However, this is not such a great idea because its easier for you to ask but its also easier for them to say no.

Also, whatever you do, don’t send a mass email asking for help because you’re much less likely to get a response. Most of the people included in the mass email may not even reply because they will just assume that someone else will help you.

When you are about to ask someone for help try to follow these tips:

  • Ask in person or over the phone: The live interaction is key and research shows that you are 34 percent more likely to get a yes if you ask in person or over the phone.
  • Be specific and direct: Most people are not mind readers so don’t be vague and don’t assume that they already know what you need. Be completely honest and tell the person exactly what you need, when you need it, etc. so that person cam make a decision to help or not.
  • Be positive and understanding: I know this is obvious but make sure to ask for help in a kind and friendly manner. And if they do happen to say no don’t take it personally.

I know that at first it is very difficult to ask for help but research has shown that succesful people have strengthened their “asking muscle”. These people have gotten past the initial difficulty of asking for help because occassionally everyone needs help to succeed.

With Love,

Yasmin

Recent Tragedies and How You Can Help

Hey Everyone!

Hope you’re all doing well!

These past few days and weeks we have witnessed a number of tragic natural disasters such as Hurricanes Harvey and Hurricanr Irma in the United States. Mexico has witnessed two tragic natural disasters, an 8.2 Earthquake and Hurricane Katia. On top of this there is the ongoing Syrian refugee crisis, which is the largest humanitarian crisis since WWII. 

Then there is also the genoicide of the Rohingya. This is also an ongoing problem that has escalated recently and I feel that it has not gotten enough media coverage. The Rohingya are a Muslim minority living in the Buddhist nation of Myanmar also known as Burma in Southeast Asia. Click here for a brief description of  the crisis and here for a bit more detailed and thorough explanation. 

All of these innocent people that are affected by these tragic natural disasters and man-made crisis are in desperate need of humanitarian aid and support. Here are some reliable and trustworthy charities that you can support so that they can help those that are in need. This is not a full list of all charities it is just some of the ones that I researched and found to be the most trustworthy: 

Hurricane Harvey, Hurricane Irma and Hurricane Maria: 

Hurricane Harvey: 

All Hands

Global Giving

Samaritan’s Purse
Salvation Army
Team Rubicon

Greater Houston Community Fund

Americares

SBP

Airbnb

Hurricane Irma:

 Airbnb

Americares

American University in Antigua

Caribbean Eagles

Global Giving

Salvation Army

Save the Children

Samaritan’s Purse
Unicef USA

Mercy Corps

Catholic Relief Services

Oxfam

Convoy of Hope
Hurricane Maria:

GoFundMe
Fundly
Dominica Hurricane Relief Fund
UNICEF
ConPRmetidos
Global Giving
Save the Children
Unidos Por Puerto Rico
Team Rubicon
Catholic Charities USA
All Hands
Syrian Refugees and Myanmar/Burma Refugees:

Syrian Refugees:

American Refugee Committee
CARE
Catholic Relief Services
Global Help Network International
Global Giving
Helping Hand for Relief and Development
International Rescue Committee
Islamic Relief USA
Mercy-USA for Aid and Development
Unicef USA

Myanmar/Burma Refugees:

Partners Relief and Development

Save the Children Federation
Islamic Relief USA
USA for UNHCR
Mexico Earthquakes and Hurricane Katia Aid:

Operation Blessing
Save the Children
Unicef USA

Mexican Red Cross
Direct Relief
Fondo Unido Mexico
Donating money is vital to making sure that those in need receive proper and prompt aid. Please consider donating any amount, even if it seems small or trivial. Always remember that a bunch of small donations can lead to something great!
However, donating money is certainly not the only way you can help! There are many volunteering opportunities! 

Hurricane Harvey:

Team Rubicon USA
Adventures
Samaritan’s Purse
NVOAD

Hurricane Irma:

Volunteer Florida
NVOAD

Syrian Refugees:

Catholic Charities of Santa Clara County
UNHCR

Mexico: I couldn’t find any specific volunteer opportunities for the recent earthquake but here is a general way to volunteer in Mexico

International Volunteer HQ

Myanmar/Burma:

DARE

I know that volunteering is not for everyone but with the exception of Mexico and Myanmar many of the opportunities listed above are volunteer opportunities that can be done if you are in the local area or some, especially those for Syria, can be done in your own local community because they involve things like fundraising and advocacy. 

You can also help by signing your name on a petition:

Hurricane Harvey:

Change.org

Hurricane Irma:

Change.org

Support for Refugees:

UNHCR

Syrian Refugees:

MoveOn.org

Myanmar/Burma Refugees:

Change.org

Mexico Earthquake:

Care 2 Petitions

All of these victims come from different backgrounds and walks of life. However, they are all human beings who have become victims of difficult situations and I truly believe that it is our moral responsibility to help them in any way that we can.


With Love,

Yasmin
This post has been updated to include links to charities that help the victims of Hurricane Maria and the second major Earthquake to hit Mexico.