Hey Everyone!
Hope you’re all doing well!
Whether its smiling, picking up and disposing a piece of trash, or opening the door for someone, I truly believe that small acts of kindness can go a long way.
I think that one act of kindness that is often overlooked is lending our ears to others and simply listening to them.
Obviously listening skills are a vital aspect of communication and they are an important skill to have in both our personal and professional lives however, in this post, I am referring to giving up a few minutes to listen to the elders in our families and communities.
Without a doubt, there is a strong chance that by listening to our elders we will reap at least some benefits from their stories. After all they have been on Earth longer than we the younger generation have and as a result they have gone through a lot of the ups and downs of life.
It is definitely true that in this modern day and age the circumstances of our lives have changed however, our core needs as humans have not changed and we can certainly apply some of the lessons they have learned through their experiences to our own lives.
Without going on a tangent, I think that our youth obsessed culture often fails to give our older generations the respect that they deserve. However, the point that I would like to emphasize is that by listening to our elders we may brighten their day and give them a sense of respect and worthiness that they may not have felt in a while.
In my personal experience, my grandparents and other elders would often tell me stories about their own youth and younger years. Many of these stories are interesting but as the storyteller ages their stories often become repetitive but I try to listen with patience and I would encourage you to do the same.
I often remember visiting my late grandfather and he would be sitting on his chair and looking lonely and sad. I would try to cheer him up by asking him to tell me a story about his younger days. And sure enough he would tell me about his days as a young CEO of a construction company in his hometown.
Often times these stories would go on for quite some time because he would describe everything in great detail.
I always noticed that after the story was over, my grandfathers’ face would seem much brighter and more joyful. Aside from my grandfather I have noticed a similar phenomenon in my other elders as well.
This experience of listening to elders has really opened my eyes to how much joy we can provide to someone by just listening to them. Of course, this is especially true of our elders. By listening, I mean truly putting our phones and other distracting gadgets away and truly giving the storyteller our undivided attention.
I think that sometimes we forget that many of these elders have had, prominent careers and rewarding relationships, and they definitely deserve to be respected and treated as a source of wisdom.
Ultimately, if we are fortunate enough to live a long life we will eventually grow older ourselves and by respecting and showing kindness to our elders now, hopefully when it is our time we will be shown the same kindness and respect.
With Love,
Yasmin
I love your gentleness and sensibility, Yasmin. I’m sure your grandsons, one day, will listen to you with the outmost respect and love; and much benefit 🙂 Best wishes always, dear ❤
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Thank you! You’re very sweet! I am sure you’re future generations will treat you with the utmost respect and love as well! Sending you best wishes and lots of love!💕💕💕
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Past generations are gone, present relatives are distant and cold, but future is always a big hope (while it’s only future; when it becomes present it loses much charm… or all of it
Thanks ! And a kiss 💋
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I definitely see your point! Kisses back😘
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Same 🙂 … Clumsily, I missed to say there are the odd persons like lights in the dark who brighten the way and make life so worthy as it is. I’m sorry I sounded so pessimistic a moment ago (bad times here 🙂 Nite nite ❤ ✨
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No don’t worry I completely understand 😘❤️😘
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My children are quite fed up listening to me and my stories already. Fortunately we have this wonderful resource, the internet. My father has been dead many years yet he still out there on the web. Sometimes I feel that he made sure my genealogical research was ready for me to pick up again, when I wasn’t so busy with children. I sat with my mother and went through all the family photos and I wrote a biography for her.
I believe everybody has a story to tell and I love putting people’s lives together. As a genealogist it frustrated me that I usually knew so little about people’s lives. The newspaper archives were amazing. Sometimes they can be a real voice from beyond the grave.
The world would be a very different place, if we really listened to the older generation and more importantly learned from their mistakes.
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Thank you so much for this very thoughtful comment and for sharing your story! I think that the vast majority of the younger generation are like your children in the sense that they’re not very interested in listening. My two teenage brothers have very little patience. I love technology but i think that our gadgets have made us so used to instant gratification that we are gradually losing our patience! I totally agree with you about the benefits of listening to the older generations.
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I suspect not listening to older people is pretty much par for the course and probably always has been, but we have the opportunity now to leave our knowledge behind, ready for when they want to listen.
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That’s very true!
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My father mananged to speak to me through his diaries, saying stuff that would have been impossible to say while he was alive.
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Wow that’s amazing! I think more people should do that! I am sure you cherish the diary! Maybe one day I will do this as well 😊
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Beautifully said Yasmin 💖💖
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Thank you so much!!!❤️
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Your such a lovely person 💖 I’m so glad WordPress made our friendship possible! Excited to keep reading your work.
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Aww thank you so much! You’re so sweet!!!💕 i feel the same way! I’ve been keeping up with your blog and I am so excited for you and Edward!! You guys are going to be amazing parents!!! Wishing you all the best!!!💕💕
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Very nice. You have a very lovely blog.
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Thank you so much for your very kind words! Likewise you have a lovely blog as well😊
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I’m at the other end of the spectrum and I love listerning to my grandnieces. I have learnt so much from my son and my nieces. Young adults have so much to pass on to my older generation. I think it is a two way process.
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Thank you so much for sharing your perspective! I think you make a great point!
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Really liked the article was going through others but felt this is what is closest to what should be done and nicely said thank you
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Thank you so much for your kind words!!!
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